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I believe there are two fundamental beliefs that govern everything we do in relation to how we treat ourselves and others.

1.  That all men are created equal.

2.  That all men are not created equal.

I think I'll talk about the second first.

2.  That all men are not created equal.

When we buy into this belief, we also buy into several lies that tear down what could have been a powerful and peaceful life.  Here's one I've dealt with in the past: "They're wrong, you're right."  The unspoken words of this lie often follow the lines of "This means you have the authority to tell them they're wrong or ask questions in a way that is specifically leading them to believe you know what is best for them."  Which isn't always true.  I personally believe that there exists in this world something called "absolute truth".  That being said, this one has had a tendency to be the most recurring lie I've had trouble with and I'm sorry if you've been on the receiving end while I was being influenced by this belief.

A couple reasons why this specific belief is dangerous:  1.  It creates friends and enemies.  Well, more accurately, it causes you to take sides.  It creates conflict.  2.  It dehumanizes others, meaning those people become "lesser" people.  This isn't a belief that creates a lot of friendships, because there are very few people on this planet who believe everything you believe.

A friend of mine asked me a while ago how to influence someone who was buying into a belief that wasn't true, or at least wasn't what you believe.  I sat there and looked into her eyes and I had no idea what to say.  Up until that moment, I had never considered it.  I'm pretty ignorant and prideful, especially for how observant and neutral I am, if you know what I mean.  ;)  Well, I think I know the answer now.  Or at least, an answer.  Love them a lot, don't argue with them, and live your life with your beliefs as your example to them, not in a prideful way, but in a way exhibiting unconditional love exactly the way they need it..  When they open up, don't shoot them down with your beliefs.  Explain to them what you believe and why you believe it, then take their situation and apply it using questions that prompt them instead of telling them that they're wrong and they need to change.  It's the art of persuasion.  I'm not very good at it, but I'm only a baby right now.  Haha.

Now, back to belief numero uno.

1.  That all men are created equal.

I believe this belief is fundamental to happiness in our relationships because when we recognize this, we also recognize that others have the same potential we have for greatness.  That simple recognition allows their impression in our minds to grow and flourish because we then recognize the truth.  The truth I'm talking about is that we all change.  I couldn't possibly share all of the blessings I've received while recognizing this as a true belief.  For one, the arguments I have are filled with love and they all turn funny somehow and end in both parties learning a lot.  Another example is my tolerance is no longer just tolerance.  It's become compassion and patience.  Don't get me wrong.  There's plenty I still have to improve on in this area of my life, but It's getting easier.  I feel brighter, if that makes any sense.  Haha.

Another way to look at it is that if we are created equal, than we are also intended to govern ourselves in the way we see fit.  That's kinda important, right?  Haha

Thanks for reading, you sparkly eyed human.  I appreciate that twinkle.

Dallin Hughes